Individual Psychotherapy For
LGBTQIA+ Infertility & Family Building
You painstakingly planned your way here.
While not all LGBTQIA+ families are the same, so often, before you could even begin trying, there were decisions to make that most people never have to think about. Known or unknown donor or surrogate. Sperm or egg bank or someone you trust. Legal paperwork. Medical consultations. Deciding to stop your hormone therapy. Gender expression while carrying a pregnancy. Being the non-gestational parent and where you fit in.
A process that for a lot of people starts with a conversation in bed and for you started with a spreadsheet and a lot of hard questions.
And then you got into the medical system and found out it was built for someone else.
You may have experienced:
● Confusion about where to start & what support you need
● Intake forms that don't have a box for your situation
● A provider who ‘needed’ you to explain something about your relationship or body before they could help you
● Being asked questions that cishet couples aren't asked — about your choices, your donor, your body parts, your family structure — as if these are open for curiosity or debate
● Feeling like you have to prove something before you're taken seriously
● Pressure from within and outside of your own community about how you should be doing this — known donor, open ID, what is the right way to approach this — on top of everything else
● The strange hyper-visibility of your family-making, when other people get to keep that private if they want to
When you're queer and building a family, the world already knows you didn't do it the way they expected. Your path is visible in a way that can feel exposing, even among people who love you. And sometimes this ‘social infertility’ can intersect with infertility or difficulties conceiving that you did not expect, making this process increasingly challenging.
What we do together
Know that I have been been through it. The donor decisions, the consultations, the intake forms, the providers who meant well and still got it wrong. My wife and I have navigated this process as a queer couple for years. I know what it feels like to sit across from someone who thinks they're being thorough and is actually being invasive.
That said, my experience is mine and yours is yours. I'm not going to assume they're the same, and I'm not going to make your sessions about what I've been through. What I've been through just means I don't need you to educate me on the process.
You won't spend the first ten minutes of every session explaining your family structure or your path to get here. We skip that part and get to what's actually going on.
What's actually going on is often layered. There's the practical weight of managing more steps than other people have to manage. There's the grief of a process that is longer and harder and more expensive and more scrutinized than it should be. There's sometimes anger — at the system, at how unfair this is, at people who got to do it easily. And there's the specific loneliness of wanting something this much and feeling like even the spaces designed to help you weren't quite designed for you.
All of that belongs here.
What changes
A practice where you're not the edge case. Where the extra steps you've had to take are already accounted for, not explained from scratch.
My clients describe being able to separate what's genuinely hard about this process from what's been made harder by a system that wasn't built for them. That distinction matters — not to minimize what's hard, but because some of the weight you're carrying isn't yours. It was handed to you. And you don't have to keep holding it the same way.
Schedule a free 15-minute consultation. We'll talk, see if we're a fit, and go from there.
